A purple clematis I planted in memory of Amber.
A few weeks ago my husband asked me what we were going to do with Amber's wheelchairs. We have the last one she used in her bedroom. The other two have been in my garage for years. We would sometimes need parts off of one or have to replace something so we kept them. I really wanted to find someone who really needed a wheelchair. Amber had used this particular wheelchair in high school and college. It would only fit a smaller person. I had heard from a friend on facebook that she knew a little boy who needed one. He had a form of muscular dystrophy also. Not the form Amber had but there are so many neuromuscular diseases ... his situation is different as they all are :(
I left the mother a message about the wheelchair. She was looking for one just to use on occasion when he has to walk long distances. She called me and we cried together talking about Amber and her son. She told me I was the first person who understood what she is going through. I told her I sadly did know what it was like. So many people that have healthy children just don't realize how fortunate they are. It's devastating to see your child slowly losing control of their legs or in some cases other things.
To make a long story short the little boy and his dad came the other day to pick up the wheelchair and this sweet child was thrilled to be given the wheelchair. I am glad it wasn't pink! He rolled all over our driveway with a huge smile on his face and gave me a hug when they left. This made my heart happy that someone could use Amber's wheelchair and I knew who he was. If I had given it to a charity I may never have known the mother's heartache and sharing Amber's story. It was just amazing how God works in our lives!
I plan on keeping in touch with the family and maybe I can help again one day. I told her to call me anytime she wanted to talk or had questions about what we went through. If you have read my blog for any length of time I have shared my feelings numerous times. Some of you write to tell me about things you have read about Amber and her name comes to mind. Blogging friends say when they see sunflowers or the color purple they think of Amber. That makes my heart happy :) I never want her to be forgotten!
The good that came from giving away the wheelchair to the little boy made me realize that things that were bothering me (and I had lost sleep over) were not important at all. Some people make "issues" over things that don't really matter in the scheme of things. It's about letting go. I let go of the wheelchair and I let go of the things that were bothering me. God is in control!
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